The toxin of bad things can be very difficult to handle. Some things that happen in life are truly very difficult to cope with. A death of a loved one or a dramatic change in lifestyle that is not by our choice certainly qualifies.
There are some daily life toxins that need to be looked at with a different perspective.
Last week I went to the gym as I do each morning. A large man was standing in front of the two water fountains filling a large container with water. The way he was standing kept me from using the water fountain he was not using. How annoying was this you ask? In fact it was really frustrating since a lot of time was going by and I needed a drink of water. After a few minutes I left the scene mumbling to myself.
After finishing my workout, I entered the men’s room to clean up. As I was washing my hands I heard a voice calling me to come over by the television. It was my “friend” from the water fountain! He called me over to let me know that there was a frostbite warning issued for the day and to take care and make sure I did not stay out long. He added that it is important to help those in need during days like this. In a state of surprise, I thanked him very much and staggered out of the room wondering if what had happened really did happen!
In fact it did and it gave me a lesson we can all relate to. The situation at the water fountain appeared to be a toxin in my day, but little did I know that there was going to be a chemical reaction that would turn it from a bad thing to a very positive one.
When we are the targets of a harmful act from someone else we have a choice to make.
Many of them we can just let go. I am not saying that if someone is truly trying to harm you that it can be ignored. As a martial artist I train others and myself in situations where we really need to protect ourselves. Although, the truth is that this is not the case most of the time.
Think back to the last 5 times you were given a toxin from someone else. I am willing to wager that at least 3 or 4 of them could have been let go. Did you react? Even worse, did you carry it with you more than 5 more minutes into your day?
If you answered yes to either of those questions, you have added toxin to a toxin and it is nobody’s fault but your own.
Now for the best chemical reaction of the day! What we need to add is the compound called patience.
As in my example from the gym, many “bad toxins” provided to us by others are not intentional and do not totally define the person permanently.
However, they will appear that way if we add in the wrong compound of anger and cannot locate the compound we need which is patience and peace.
Are you willing to give this a try? I know that I need to stock up on my supply of patience and peace!