A Journey to Knock Out Toxins 7

By February 18, 2015Uncategorized

The toxin of bad things can be very difficult to handle. Some things that happen in life are truly very difficult to cope with. A death of a loved one or a dramatic change in lifestyle that is not by our choice certainly qualifies.

There are some daily life toxins that need to be looked at with a different perspective.

Last week I went to the gym as I do each morning. A large man was standing in front of the two water fountains filling a large container with water. The way he was standing kept me from using the water fountain he was not using. How annoying was this you ask? In fact it was really frustrating since a lot of time was going by and I needed a drink of water. After a few minutes I left the scene mumbling to myself.

After finishing my workout, I entered the men’s room to clean up. As I was washing my hands I heard a voice calling me to come over by the television. It was my “friend” from the water fountain! He called me over to let me know that there was a frostbite warning issued for the day and to take care and make sure I did not stay out long. He added that it is important to help those in need during days like this. In a state of surprise, I thanked him very much and staggered out of the room wondering if what had happened really did happen!

In fact it did and it gave me a lesson we can all relate to. The situation at the water fountain appeared to be a toxin in my day, but little did I know that there was going to be a chemical reaction that would turn it from a bad thing to a very positive one.

When we are the targets of a harmful act from someone else we have a choice to make.

Many of them we can just let go. I am not saying that if someone is truly trying to harm you that it can be ignored. As a martial artist I train others and myself in situations where we really need to protect ourselves. Although, the truth is that this is not the case most of the time.

Think back to the last 5 times you were given a toxin from someone else. I am willing to wager that at least 3 or 4 of them could have been let go. Did you react? Even worse, did you carry it with you more than 5 more minutes into your day?

If you answered yes to either of those questions, you have added toxin to a toxin and it is nobody’s fault but your own.

Now for the best chemical reaction of the day! What we need to add is the compound called patience.

As in my example from the gym, many “bad toxins” provided to us by others are not intentional and do not totally define the person permanently.

However, they will appear that way if we add in the wrong compound of anger and cannot locate the compound we need which is patience and peace.

Are you willing to give this a try? I know that I need to stock up on my supply of patience and peace!

13 Comments

  • Dawn Harris says:

    Very good advice. I have a problem with not letting go of bad toxins, this will make me work on that

    • Joe says:

      Dear Dawn,

      Thank you for writing to us. If we make it our life long journey to knock out toxins we will live a life filled with peace and compassion. A littel progress at a time is all we need.

      Peace, Joe

  • Laura says:

    I admit it! Guilty – patience is something I need to work on daily. There are many times that I can easily keep my mouth shut but I don’t let it go. Thanks for the reminder. I will try harder in this regard. Your every day examples really bring it home Joe! Love these blogs 🙂

    • Joe says:

      Hey Laura,

      Thank you. I would say that we are all guilty as you put it, but the key is to admit it. Once we can see a little better what we have we can make that all important choice. The dogs are telling me this all the time!!

      Peace, Joe

  • Jackie Dugas says:

    That was a lot to think about! Next time this happens to me I will stop and think of your words and take a deep breath and move on!
    Thanks!

    • Joe says:

      Hello Jackie,

      Thank you for your comment. I like your idea of stopping and taking that moment to act appropriately. Life is a challenge but a beautiful one for sure.

      Peace, Joe

  • Alton Jenkins says:

    Thank you for this post today. I really needed to hear that so that I may start ridding the toxins from my life.

    • Joe says:

      Hello Alton,

      You are very welcome. My hope is that we can establish a large “pack” to help each other lead a more peaceful life.
      Thank you for joining us.

      Peace, Joe

  • Roxann says:

    I’m glad you wrote this article. After losing my home to foreclosure in April 2012, I found myself turned away by several friends, they told me i could stay but I’d have to get rid of my two dogs. I was not willing to do this and lived with Ace and Brock for 6 months i my truck and when weather got warmer we set u my tent near the beach. I rid of the toxins by deleting those people from my life and embracing new friendships from good folks we met on the beach and at the dog park.
    Reading your article has brought back some of those hurt feelings. I didn’t say anything negative or lash out at the time, just moved on. Several of my old girl friends have tried contacting me in the past 3yrs. But I’m choosing not to let them back int my life…somehow they still affect me.
    I went back to work December 2012, my fur family and I are renting a nice house with a big fenced in backyard close both the beach and the dog park.

    • Joe says:

      Dear Roxann,

      Thank you for writing to us. I am sorry to hear about what you have experience but it seems like you have taken appropriate steps to minimize the effects of some of those toxins. It is a life long journey for sure, but doing what is best for us is necessary. It comes down to doing appropriate actions to live a more peaceful life.
      Say hello to Ace and Brock for us!

      Peace, Joe and Daniel

  • Colleen says:

    I’m torn at times when I come across an abrasive or disrespectful person because I have come to know several individuals with these qualities. I found they have these behaviors because of past hurts, etc. and build walls. They hurt others before they get hurt. Underneath the nonsense, a couple of these individuals have huge hearts, but won’t let many in. So….I try to wonder what they are dealing with in their lives and take a deep breath. Kill them with kindness. One way or another I atleast feel better! Thank you for your words and helping me re-visit these feelings!

    • Joe says:

      Hi Colleen,

      Thank you for your comment. I am glad you felt a little better, as it is important to take small steps at a time and stay focused. I really believe that sharing our life experiences helps.

      Peace, Joe

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