As a dog trainer, whenever I was told, “Well, my Jingles is a Beagle and all Beagles do this…” I must say that I would cringe! Then I would relax and say, “it is true that certain traits can be seen but every dog has a unique personality. It is like saying all people of a certain nationality do this”
This point is proven in the two Doxies that shared my life, Fritz and Rommel. Fritz was an incredibly intense individual. He almost never could be seen in a relaxed state since his personality was one where he had to always be showing a tough exterior.
Rommel, also a Doxie, was the complete opposite. He was always so relaxed and had a mellow, calm demeanor throughout his life.
It may be disputed that one personality is more effective than the other, but in fact they both have their strengths. Strengths that I have committed to learning more from as I proceed to following my dream of saving animals and brining more compassion to the world.
For over 30 years I have practiced Go-Ju Ryu Karate, translated, ‘Hard-soft school” in Japanese. It is a blend of hard and soft techniques, and the more you dedicate yourself to the style, the more you see the value and application of each.
Through what I now see as no accident, the style I chose many years ago to study in the martial arts and the two dogs that shared my life but now that have transitioned to heaven have provided me with valued life lessons.
There is a time to use a “soft” technique and back off of a situation. I often consider people that work in rescue efforts for animals and how they may be more inclined to following a certain strategy that I may not completely agree with. Instead of reacting, it is an opportunity to soften my thoughts and simply thank them for being there for animals in need. My first thought here is to thank Rommel for his lesson.
In a situation where an animal may be being treated badly, I admit my “hard” side is likely to come out. I may speak out with more force in these situations for the safety of this loved animal. Fritz will of course be in the forefront of my mind.
Within this valuable discussion and examples set by two Doxies I love very much are the two real powerful lessons.
The best approach is to carefully blend the hard and soft reactions that will be most beneficial to the situation presented to you. As I think back to both Rommel and Fritz they both in fact did just that even though they were known for their propensity for being “hard and soft” in their mannerisms.
As always, the events of our life and the lessons given to us by the animals that have been part of our life all have meaning and will ultimately carve out the path and purpose we need to be on.
Fritz and Rommel may both be in Heaven and are not physically here now to sit on my lap and give me a kiss every day (clearly one of my soft moments!)
However, they were both here for a distinct reason and purpose and they both speak to me every day.
I just need to listen more often!